The Fairy Tale Is Real

To take from the analogies of the last few days, the question is: "Can you be the fairy princess or the heroic prince while pouring your morning cup of coffee?" In other words, do your dreams matter? Does your happiness matter? Does what you want matter? Do you define yourself, or is someone, or something, outside of you, telling you who you are?

How you feel as you go about your day, doing the normal things that you do, is based on the definitions that you hold about yourself and what's possible in life. At this point in human history, almost no one makes these definitions consciously and independently. Instead, typically, the process of defining yourself is one of adoption and assimilation.

When you're young, especially once you enter the school system, it's as if people hand you a stack of cue cards that say, "This is you. Memorize it." You flip through the cards and think, "This doesn't sound like me at all," but you think that these people that have been in this world for a while know more than you do, so you adapt to their perceptions of you, even though thinking of yourself in such stunted ways feels unnatural. You're willing to take one for the team because you don't understand the team, yet.

As you travel to adulthood, you're handed another stack of cards that details who you are as a citizen and a member of various communities. The cards tell you, "This is you, These are your duties and obligations," and you think, "That doesn't leave much free time," but you want to fit in, so you do your best to squeeze down into those minuscule definitions to get along with the world and please your culture. Then you wonder in fits of inspiration, "When do I get to be me?" and the answer comes, "After you finish with all of your obligations to the rest of us." You may find yourself only able to be yourself after a few beers on Friday night or right before you fall asleep or, maybe, you're unable to be you at all because you've lost all recognition of your volition. You can no longer find yourself under the mass of adopted ideas that others are calling "you."

I woke up one day, many years ago, and thought, "You could replace me with a robot, and no one would notice because there's no me left, doing these activities." I was living my entire life from adopted definitions. It took a long time to find my free will and to learn to exercise it. I think this is pretty common. You see it every time you hear someone say, "I have no choice." Their desire to do the right thing has overshadowed their purpose for being here in the first place. I call that day that you recognize this the beginning of the great "dig out." You discover yourself under a mountain of cultural definitions, and you have to find ways to dig yourself out. I'm still digging. However, I've learned a few things along the way.

What I've learned is that you're here to form your own definitions. Consciously, deliberately, and intentionally choosing the ideas that you want to adopt is the life of you. It's your divine right as an individual, and it's why your here. Therefore, don't hand it over to others to toy with, use, and discard. Exercise it.

The world we live in is fiction. Therefore, the fairy tale is real. It's whatever you define it to be. You're free, you're absolutely free, to define it in any way that you see fit without reference or regard to anyone else or what they believe is appropriate or possible.

There are no rules in this world except the ones that we make. Everyone makes the rules that will create their personal experience of life, even if they do so unconsciously by accepting what others have determined is their place in the world. It's not your place in the world unless you say it is. You can change the fiction because it's all made up. Make it up the way you want it to be. Let the story express you. You have the ability to do this even if you've forgotten how.

You're reading by Samantha Standish. If you want to learn more about what happened in my out-of-body experience, my book, "Equal," is available for a nominal amount at,

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