Unacceptable Until Proven Acceptable

We carry a tremendous amount of unnecessary pressure in this culture simply because intolerant people have pushed their agendas for a very long time, and tired people have acquiesced to the demands. This doesn't make those agendas logical. Burdens are placed where they have no business being. One of those irrational burdens is that we're held to be unacceptable beings until proven acceptable. This is extremely illogical. What's more, it's untrue.

For a moment, imagine that there was no one on the face of the Earth except you. Under those circumstances, your acceptability isn't in question. It's obvious that you're acceptable because you exist, and since there's no one putting that acceptability into question, you don't question it. Instead, you take it for granted that you're acceptable. You go about your business, unencumbered and pressure-less. There's no, "I'm acceptable if my hair looks good, or if my face is handsome, or if I have a beneficial effect on the plants and animals" because there are no other people on the planet to reject you for the way that you are. Under those circumstances, you're acceptable and your hair and face look the way that they look. You're acceptable and you have the effect that you have on the plants and animals. There's no contingency to your acceptability because there's no one making it contingent.

The fact of the matter is, your acceptability is never in question unless someone questions it. Someone has to put it into question. No one puts your acceptability into question without an agenda of control because there's no other reason to question your acceptability. So, someone wants something from you, even if it's just to take out their hostility on you, when they put your acceptability in question.

In reality, there's no such question, "Am I acceptable?" The question is always, "Am I acceptable to [you, them, him, her, myself]." There's always a someone making the decision about your acceptability. Someone's getting involved in the idea of your acceptability, and they're getting involved for their own selfish reasons. They're not getting involved to benefit you, or they'd acknowledge that you're already acceptable. Making your acceptability a question means someone gets to make some rules and put you to work.

In truth, you're already acceptable. You're here. You're equal. You belong. You're acceptable. This belonging is never in question until you put it into question. You put it into question by, literally, asking the question to someone, "Am I acceptable to you?" When you ask this question (whether verbal or implied), it's as if you're throwing a ball to someone, and they'll either catch it (find you acceptable) or let it drop at their feet (reject you). That's a lot of power to put into the hands of other people for no discernible reason.

Without in any way needing to, you're saying, "I'm not acceptable unless this person accepts me," or "I need to be accepted by this person to be acceptable." But is this true? You're able to be accepted (accept-able) whether anyone ever accepts you or not. It's not your job to be accepted by other people. You don't need acceptance. In point of fact, what if one person accepts you, and another person doesn't accept you. Which one is right? Are you acceptable or unacceptable? Do you see how your acceptability isn't actually in question? Do you see how another person's acceptance of you is about them and not you? Their rejection of you doesn't make you unacceptable. Anyone can accept you at any time. You're still able to be accepted. That's because you already are acceptable. Your acceptability isn't in question. Your acceptability to this person is what's in question.

Another person finding you unacceptable doesn't modify your equality. Another person finding you unacceptable doesn't modify your belonging. Another person finding you unacceptable doesn't modify your power. Another person finding you unacceptable doesn't make you unacceptable. Another person finding you unacceptable means that they don't accept you. That's all. Well, they don't have to accept you for you to be acceptable. They don't control, or decide, your acceptability. They control, and decide, your acceptability to them. There's a giant, Grand Canyon of a difference.

The fact that you've made your acceptability open to question doesn't mean that you're not already acceptable. It means that you're toying with ideas of inequality. You're messing around with ideas of separation. You're trying to turn yourself into a quantity of something that can be measured and graded and declared good or bad based on criteria. You're entitled to do that, but it's an unnecessary burden because you're already acceptable. Why adhere to systems of philosophy that make you work for what's already yours?

In reality, there's no acceptable or unacceptable. The question of your acceptability is a false inquiry because you have to be acceptable to exist. You have to be in unity with everyone and everything to exist. Your inherent unity is the ultimate credential of acceptability. Putting your acceptability into question is just a means to create the experience of separation. It's another way to explore ideas of less and more. You can't actually be less and more, however. You can only experience the ideas. Thus, you don't need to be acceptable because that implies that you can be unacceptable, and you can't be unacceptable. Do you see how that works? It's sneaky. Either inquiry, "Am I acceptable" or "Am I unacceptable" implies that there are two states of acceptability, and there's no such animal. There's only the state of being already accepted, equal, belonging, and in unity.

Stubborn, intolerant people aren't going to find you acceptable no matter what you do. To some people, there's no mountain high enough for you to climb that will satisfy them. What do you do in those situations? In other words, you're never going to be acceptable to all people, so why put yourself on the treadmill in the first place? Why open up your acceptability to question?

The way that you keep this issue in check is to and it. You're acceptable and you can't find work. You're acceptable and you're in an argument with your family. You're acceptable and no one seems to like you. You're acceptable and you feel bad about yourself. You allow undesired circumstances to be what they are with no effect, whatsoever, on your acceptability. You stop making yourself relative. You stop making yourself a slave to someone else's if. They can if themselves. They can no longer if you because you don't put your acceptability in question. You stop asking anyone, especially yourself, if you're acceptable or not. Your acceptability is not in question.

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