Other People Don't Own You

You might be saying to yourself, "I know that other people don't own me. That's obvious." But worldwide behavioral practices say otherwise. The burden is placed on individuals to please other individuals. That's someone claiming your choices for their use and enjoyment. That makes you their toy, their object, and their possession. It's ownership of your choices which is ownership of you. This plays out in countless ways on the micro and macro scales.

The challenge is to reverse the burden so that it's where it's supposed to be--with the individual. It's for every individual to take responsibility for their feelings, attitudes, and experiences and to not assume that responsibility from others. It's for you to take responsibility for your life and your experiences and to refuse to take responsibility for the life and experiences of others. I've reduced it to a formula for your convenience. It's as follows:

1. You own you.
2. Other people don't own you.
3. Therefore, other people are not entitled to expect anything from you or to tell you what to do.
4. It's their responsibility to respect your equality and accept you unconditionally.
5. It's their obligation to be the means to their own satisfaction.
6. Their anger and disappointment with you, then, for any reason whatsoever, is their burden and their fault.

This works in the reverse, as well.

1. Other people own themselves.
2. You don't own anyone else.
3. Therefore, you're not entitled to expect anything from anyone or to tell anyone what to do.
4. It's your responsibility to respect the equality of other people and to accept them unconditionally.
5. It's your obligation to be the means to your own satisfaction.
6. Your anger and disappointment with others, for any reason whatsoever, is your burden and your fault.

This doesn't mean that you can't help other people or that other people can't agree to help you. It means that you have no obligation to do so and neither does anyone else. Each individual acts for their own reasons, not because there's a duty present.

You're going to see me writing on this subject, repeatedly, because it's going to take some retraining before the burden is back where it belongs and individuals stop playing games of projecting the responsibility for their lives onto others and accepting the responsibility for other people's lives. I'm more concerned with the latter. We take on massive burdens because we're taught to believe that we owe. We're told that we owe the monetary system, the government, businesses, institutions, our family, friends, co-workers, children, society, and so on. This is learned behavior. We owe no one.

Every time someone guilt, shames, humiliates, or embarrasses you, they're attempting to place the burden for their choices that are resulting in their feelings onto you. This may seem like simple stuff, but it's difficult to see it when you're in it because you're taught to take the burden automatically and defend. So, I'll be laying it out again and again until it becomes clear, until it becomes so obvious that you can no longer be guilted, shamed, humiliated, or embarrassed because you know that the feelings of others are the result of their choices, not yours.

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