I Guess You Wouldn't Be Criticizing Me Unless It Was Deserved

You do behavior. I do behavior. Your behavior is the result of your choices, and my behavior is the result of my choices. My behavior doesn't cause your behavior, and your behavior doesn't cause my behavior. But, culturally, we believe that the behavior of one person excuses the behavior of another person. We claim that the behavior of one causes the behavior of another. This is an impossibility. Individuals cause their own behavior.

What I'm addressing to is the learned behavior of taking responsibility for another person's actions because others claim that your actions cause their actions. In a very simple example, you're with your friend who implies that you've done something wrong. Your instant reaction is to feel bad, affronted, and question yourself. Underneath the anger, there's this nagging self-doubt that says that the other person wouldn't be criticizing you unless that criticism was valid. In that moment, you're taking responsibility for your friend's choice to shame you.

Now, you could be the worst, most horrible person on the planet, and that still doesn't excuse your friend's behavior. It doesn't make their criticism of you valid. Truth doesn't excuse condemnation because condemnation isn't required for discernment. They're adding that element of shaming into the equation through the condemnation, and that's immoral. But they're claiming that you're the cause of their choice to shame you. They're claiming that your behavior justifies their behavior. This can't be.

Your behavior can't justify their behavior. Your behavior doesn't cause their behavior. Their criticism is on them alone because they're choosing it when they could make other choices. They, singularly, cause their criticism of you and, no matter what you've done, that criticism is immoral because it's condemning. By criticizing you, they've chosen to be immoral. Your behavior doesn't change the immorality of their behavior. Your behavior isn't an excuse for their immorality. Immorality doesn't justify immorality.

If you'll recall, morality is appreciation. Condemnation in any form is unappreciative. It's the attempt to convince a person that they're unequal to their peers. This is an act of supreme immorality. Your immoral behavior (if it was immoral in the first place) doesn't justify their immoral behavior. One person's bad behavior doesn't render a free pass to another person's bad behavior. To state it clearly, the bad behavior of one person doesn't magically modify the character of the bad behavior of another person.

One person does something immoral, and other people use that behavior as an excuse to jump (physically or psychologically) all over the first person. They then say that their behavior of hate and condemnation is justified because of the first person's behavior. For example, "I can demean [fill in your favorite asshole] because I hate what he's done." There's no such justification. There's no such right. There's no such authorization. The first person did an immoral thing (the asshole). And the second person did an immoral thing (you). Linking the two acts together doesn't transform an immoral act into a moral act. It doesn't legitimize it. The act is immoral because its motivation is unappreciative.

Criticism is never deserved because you can't earn criticism. You hear people say that a person had some bad thing coming to them because they "deserved it." That's the belief that you earn negative experiences. You can't earn an action. Actions are choices that render their nature. One action, however, doesn't cause another action. Every action is chosen, individually, by the person who initiates that particular action. To say otherwise is to claim that toast causes vacuum cleaners. These items aren't related to one another. Toast is an action possible in this world, and vacuum cleaners are another action possible in this world. You can make toast, and you can vacuum. Toast doesn't cause your decision to vacuum. You cause your decision to vacuum.

Nothing that you do can cause another person's behavior. They cause their behavior. They choose their behavior from the infinite choices available. Criticism is one of the choices available. People have the option to criticize you for any, or no, reason. But criticism is never mandated because there are other choices available. Your behavior doesn't justify another person's criticism of you. They do that through their choice to express immorality.

The nature of criticism--criticism in the form of condemnation (shaming), not to be confused with criticism in the form of discernment (stating facts)--is immoral. It's immoral one hundred percent of the time. It's immoral because it's unappreciative. Nothing anyone does excuses that immorality.

Your behavior isn't an excuse for another person's criticism of you. Another person's behavior isn't an excuse for your criticism of them. Criticism is merely a choice. It exists, and people can choose it. However, its nature is always immoral. It's never deserved, and no action justifies it.

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