There's No "Reason" For Anything

The existence of choice means that there's never a reason for any expression other than the fact that you're choosing it. Your reason doesn't make the choice. You make the choice. The fact that you could make another choice means that a reason can never be why you make a choice.

For example, say that you hate someone for something that they've done. You say that you hate them for their actions. That's not why you hate them. You hate them because you choose to hate them and for no other reason because you could choose not to hate them. Choice means that reasons can never be why you do anything because you could make another choice.

"No," you say. "You don't understand. If they didn't do that horrible thing, I wouldn't hate them. The only reason that I hate them is because of their terrible behavior."

That's not true. You hate them because you choose to hate them. The reason this is so is because you could choose not to hate them. You have the ability to make an alternate choice. You could be neutral. You could be confused. You could be understanding. You could be unfeeling. You could be in agreement. You could make any of those choice, but you chose hate. Their behavior isn't causing that specific choice. You're causing that specific choice.

We call it "choice" because it means that you have more than one course of action. That's what choice means. In every situation in every moment of every day of your life, you have more than one course of action. You're choosing way more than you acknowledge, or are aware, that you're choosing. We've habituated choice to such an extent that's it's so fast that it doesn't feel like a choice. It feels like a reaction over which we have no control, but reactions are the result of choice. It always comes down to a course of action that you're choosing, even if that choice is made so quickly that you're not aware that you're making it.

We're taught not to take responsibility for our choices. If we knock something over, we say that it shouldn't have been sitting there. If we're late to work, we say that it's because there was too much traffic. If we feel bad about things, we say that it's the state of the world, circumstances, or the behavior of others. None of these things are true. We're responsible for how we participate with everything. We knock that thing over because we knock that thing over. We're late to work because we're late to work. We feel bad about things because we choose perspectives that make us feel bad about things. We're driving the processes of our lives. No one is making us do these things or feel these things but us. That's good news because it means that we're in control of our lives.

Families, culture, schooling, and rules teach us to respond to specific situations in specific ways. We become programmed in our responses and forget that we have options. You could get three fourths through making a cake and find that you don't have a key ingredient, no money to buy what you need, and be happy about it. That's not delusional. There's no cosmic rule that says that you have to be angry when things don't go the way that you planned. We've been taught, however, that the disempowered option is the "rational" option. There's nothing rational about being upset when things don't go your way. It serves no purpose. It's the opposite of rational.

The more automatic you are in your responses, the more robotic you are in your life. Programming is running your life. When you take a fraction of a second to remember that there are more options available, even if you don't choose those options, you've taken yourself off of automatic pilot, and you're running the show, once more.

You make your choices because you make your choices and for no other reason. Disregarding everyone else's rules, what choices are most beneficial to you in any given moment? What choices maximize your wellbeing, your power, and your options? What choices minimize your wellbeing, your power, and your options? There's always more going on and more available than what we've been taught.

Your life is like a car. You're either driving the car, or other people are driving the car. If you want to reach destinations that please you, you'd better be in the driver's seat. To do that, you have to think independent of the programming. You have to think for yourself. You have to know that you're choosing.

You're reading by Samantha Standish. If you want to learn more about what happened in my out-of-body experience, my book, "Equal," is available for a nominal amount at,

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